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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

New England Mamas Giftravaganza!

Some of you know that I'm one of the New England Mamas.  Have you checked out our blog yet?  We've got some of the best bloggers in New England (and me!) and they're smart and witty and brilliant storytellers AND they're devastatingly gorgeous.   Take a look and see.

The official launch date is next week so we're going to give away tons of great stuff to celebrate - some of it from mom-owned companies based right here in New England.  If you don't stop by next week and win something, I may just have to keep everything for myself.

So never mind.  Don't add us to your feed reader or anything.


Tuesday, November 27, 2007

A Very Soggy Story

With a four day weekend tantalizingly ahead of us, my husband and I discussed how we could fill that time.  A short getaway to Montreal?  Shopping for much-needed furniture perhaps?  Sleeping in?

Wrong!

While those things sound fantastic we're now knee-deep in this parenting gig and that means that our precious stretch of "free" time would have to be filled up with more important things.  Things like teaching a 2.9 year old the art of making "pee-pee" and "poo-poo" in the "potty."

(Those of you looking for some erudite discussion on...anything really should cut your loses and click away now.)

Yes my friends, this would be the weekend that our toddler would be potty trained SO HELP US GOD.

We were optimistic as we started the process Thursday morning.  We gave Sebastian his first pair of big boy pants -- teeny tiny blue Bob The Builder underpants. 

"Such a big boy!"  We cooed with proud tears in our eyes.  "No more diapers for you!  You tell us when you have to make pee-pee, OK?"

"I big boy!"  he said, and ran off to play in the living room.

My baby.  Gone!  Just like that.

Except that my husband spent the entire day changing our son's clothes and mopping the floors.  Because our big boy thought that he was supposed to tell us he had peed AFTER the fact.  He did this over and over again.

Thankfully there was a turkey keeping me busy all day, so I simply couldn't be bothered with the unsavory job of cleaning up after a pottier-in-training.  I only tell you this so I can include a picture of the fruit of my labors:

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My mother asked for evidence that I can indeed roast a turkey.  This one's for you Mom! 
(and Martha Stewart)
(OK, so my Lil' Butterball looks a little bit naked.  It needs some dressing it up, don't you think?  But that's neither here nor there
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As you may have guessed, Friday wasn't spent shopping for bargains.  I was busy sprinting between the laundry room and the potty room all while keeping Sebastian off the furniture.

Saturday was more of the same.  Except that we gave up just a tiny bit and put diapers on the boy, since we still had to catch up on all the laundry from the first two days.  Oh, and Sebastian had not pooped once since this whole ordeal began.  Things were not looking good.

I woke up on Sunday determined to give my husband the "we gave it a shot, but clearly he's not ready and we should try again later" speech because I was tired of this.  I was trying to figure exactly when "later" would be (would his 15th birthday be too late?) when Sebastian jumped up from the breakfast table and announced, "I need to go potty! I need potty!"

Off we went, and lo, there was much pee-pee and poo-poo in the potty.  And there was much rejoicing and videotaping and many long-distance calls were placed where a child's squeaky voice exclaimed:

"I use the potty!  YAY!"

And there was much flushing and very little diapering happily ever after. 

Don't you just love happy endings?

Thursday, November 22, 2007

I do more than just complain...

Things I am Grateful for:

  • My husband - my partner-in-crime, the one person who knows how I like things, the person from whom I can't hide my true feelings and who makes me laugh everyday - all while looking like James Bond his tuxedo. Rawr.
  • Sebastian - my "big-boy" pint-sized ball of energy and wit.
  • Benjamin - the baby who will soon take over the world.  He is charisma personified.
  • My family - you're all awesome and you know it.
  • My friends - for everything.
  • That dark chocolate and red wine are actually good for you.  Thank you Jebus!
  • How Clean is Your House - for making me feel like a domestic goddess while I watch daytime television instead of dusting or whatever it is you're supposed to be doing.
  • All-Wheel-Drive
  • That my cousin the Marine survived a bomb attack and got back from Iraq in one piece.
  • Totally related to the above bullet point - that election day is less than a year away and people are (finally!) waking up to Bush's fundamentalist hypocrisy.  Amen!
  • Luxe environmentalism.  God, I hate patchouli.
  • Jeans that hide a multitude of sins
  • That I actually enjoy yoga and pilates.  Because I also love brownies.
  • Boxer dogs
  • Size 7 diapers.
  • Courtesy pre-boarding for families traveling with children.
  • Pumpkin pie, pumpkin soup, pumpkin ravioli.  You get the picture.
  • Figs
  • Fall foliage
  • That ballerina flats are trendy now, so I can add to my collection with abandon

And you!  Thank you for reading and for your comments and emails.  Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Quote of the day

"Nothing bad happens to a writer." Nancy D. Kelton

...or to a blogger, I would add.

 

Monday, November 19, 2007

It's Like Twitter on Paper

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I love getting real mail.  Who doesn't love finding a handwritten note buried in the daily stacks of bills and catalogs?  It's one of life's simple pleasures, and as letters and cards become rarer the people who actually take the time to send something that needs a stamp are becoming something like everyday superheroes in my eyes.

Don't get me wrong; I'm not some Luddite who hates technology--I wouldn't be able to survive without my Mac.  But nothing beats the thrill of mail in my eyes.

Problem is, who has the time to write long letters anymore?  I sure don't, but I don't let that stop me.  What I do instead is I keep a stack of postcards (remember those?) around, and when my Google calendar tells me that somebody's birthday is coming up, or when I want to send a quick thank you to someone, I'm ready.  Instead of typing "Thanks for dinner!  It was fun!"  I write it on the back of a pretty postcard, stamp it, and leave it for the mailman to pick up.

Dscn5293_2I got this idea from an article I read about some super-executive who kept a stack of postcards at the office and scribbled little notes while on on conference calls.  The article admired her multitasking skills; I just thought it was a neat idea. 

So I started collecting bird-themed postcards (what is it with birds and me lately?) and started sending off short messages for any little reason.  I don't spend a lot of money, and sometimes I buy personalized ones at Etsy.  It''s more fun than text messaging and it's tons more personal.

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

If not today, when?

I've really been enjoying the NoBloShoeMo Flickr pool started by Susan Wagner.  I love shoes of course, but I think the reasons for my enjoyment run a little deeper.  In getting a peek at people's shoes you get to know the real person hiding behind the expected - buttoned-up lawyers jazzing up black pantsuits with leopard print shoes, SAHM wearing satin heels, rock chicks in dainty ballerina flats...I just love it.

It has also reminded me of all the nice things I already have but keep hidden  for "another day."  Do you do that too?  Do you save your nice things for a "special" day?   

Let me ask you something -- does that mythical "special day" ever come?

I've been doing that since I was little, saving my nice things for later, and what ends up happening is that I live my life in mediocre shoes and the pretty ones never get worn.  I even forget I have them, so when a special occasion does come up, I end up running to the store (I hate shopping!) at the last minute (hate!) and buying something out of desperation.

It's hard to break this habit.  As I've become more aware of what I'm doing, I've noticed that this nasty habit has spread from shoes and clothing to other parts of my life.  For example, I buy pretty notebooks compulsively - they sit on my bedside table and what do I carry in my bag?  Nothing!  I end up writing notes on old ATM receipts is what I do. 

So I've decided to stop saving my nice things for later.  Later never comes.  I'm enjoying the pretty things now.

This morning, rather than drinking coffee out of my trusty old frog mug I drank it out of my fancy wedding china.  Because I already have it.  Pouring coffee and milk into it didn't take any extra effort.  And the result?  Much prettier.  I started the day in a better mood.  It made today special.

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Try it.  You know you have pretty things hidden at home.  Take them out and use them. 

Today is worth it, I promise.

Monday, November 12, 2007

Variations on a Theme

My toddler says the most adorable things, I swear. 

While I'm convinced of his brilliance and wit (I am his mother after all) I also realize that a lot of the time what is adorable is not necessarily what he says, but how he says it.

For instance, Sebastian's latest expression is "Oh my goodness!"- it's adorable because it's the kind of thing I imagine a prim schoolmarm would say but then he says it like the toddler he is,  "Oh my guuuudness, Mama!  I drop my milk!"

You have to hear it in person to fully appreciate the cuteness.  Trust me.

Last night, we were in the car with my brother and sister-in-law and I wanted them to hear for themselves just how cute he sounds when he says it.

"Sebi,"  I said. "Can you say 'oh my goodness' for Rudy and Evelyn?"

A little voice pipes up from his car seat, "F*CK!"

Everyone in the car sat in stunned silence.  We've all heard about positive reinforcement blah, blah, blah, so we ignored him. 

Still, I shot my husband a dirty look.

"Um...I got lost in Cambridge once, and I forgot he was in the backseat," he said.  I could tell this wasn't necessarily his proudest moment in parenting.

"F***ck!  F*ck-f*ckety-f*ckety f*ck f*ck!  F*ck!  F*ck!  Freaking f*cking f*ck!  Faaaack!"

Sebastian paused and looked out the window at the lights on Newbury street.  You could hear the muffled laughter by now but we couldn't help ourselves.  He continued with his monologue without ever looking at us.

"Oh f*ck.  F*cking f*ck! F*ckety-f*ck! F***ck!  F*cking f*ckers!"

I was about to pee my pants at this point.  My husband gained a bit of composure and tried to defend himself: 

"Come on!  Have you ever tried to drive in Cambridge without navigation?"

(It didn't take very long to get some strange Google searches - so I added the asterisks, but you get the idea.)

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Morocco: So Far From Suburbia III

She met us in full chador. 

How could I be sure we were meeting the same woman?  The truth is that I couldn’t, and that was part of the excitement.  That is the beauty of travel; doing things one would never do at home.  Would I follow a masked stranger into an unfamiliar alley in my hometown?  Of course not!  I would stick to safe places and routines.  Here I didn’t know what was safe and what wasn’t so it was all the same to us.

We followed her into a silent maze of streets, walls golden in the morning sun, her chador billowing in the breeze as she rushed deeper into the city.

Marrakech was like a time capsule, its history laid bare for us to see and touch, but I knew so little about it.  I wanted to learn more.

“Those are the baths,” she said in French, pointing at a crumbling building.  That was the extent of our tour.  The rest of the time we rushed behind her in silence, afraid of getting lost. 

We would see a person here and there - men dressed like wizards in full hoods and pointy shoes, women bringing laundry inside - but they never looked at us.  Still, I could feel eyes looking at us from behind curtains made from old bed sheets, so I knew we were not alone.

Eventually she stopped at a large building.  Most of it was painted light blue, then it just stopped and was cement gray.  It looked like someone had run out of paint and just left it that way.

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The girl that had been with her when we got our henna tattoos was outside playing with a large sheep, trying to smooth its matted coat.  Our guide ignored the girl so we followed her inside.  The room was large enough to be a comfortable living room, but then I noticed that it was lined with twin mattresses and bedding was piled up against the wall to form makeshift couches.  There was only one door in the room – the one we had just walked through.  There were a lot of people in there and they were looking at us expectantly.  We waved shyly. 

No reaction.

Our guide went to a slight man dressed in white who was seated in a corner of the room and got on her knees.  She kissed his hands.

We looked at each other, unsure what to do.  We started to kneel when the man stood up and motioned for us to stop.

“There is no need.  It is not your tradition,” he said shaking his head.

English!  We were relieved and started to apologize for not dressing appropriately, for not having a chador, but we had just arrived and did not know where to find one…

He smiled and dismissively waved his hands.  Then he nodded at the woman who brought us to his house.  She got up and in one swift motion, took off her chador. She was a young girl – maybe 19 or so, just like us—not the older woman we had expected.  The man must have been her father.  It was then that I noticed that the other women inside the house weren’t wearing chadors either.  They wanted to make us feel at home, and for the first time, they smiled at us.

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Our friend was a very pretty girl.  She had a wide, friendly smile and sparkly eyes.  She made sure we all sat down and served us tea while the rest of the family watched us from across the room.  We did our best to make conversation, but found that only the men and boys spoke English.  They asked us if we found Moroccans to be friendly and we had to laugh.  One of our friends was very popular with the taxi drivers and shopkeepers, and we had been jokingly offered up to 20 camels for her.

“She’s going for 20 camels at this point,” I said, pointing at the girl we had dubbed Ms. Morocco.

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The ice was broken, and we sat down in small groups.  They asked us questions about life in Europe and America.  We asked them about life in Morocco.  They told us about the lavish weddings, and even pulled out family photo albums.  For a while, we felt right at home – all differences forgotten in the universal sharing of wedding stories.

At one point, all the men except for the father left the room.  I wouldn’t have noticed it, save for the desperate bleating of the sheep that the girl had been playing with outside.  The men dragged it to the front door and started singing as they struggled with it and held it to the ground.

Then one of the mustachioed uncles, a man who a few minutes ago had been laughing and drinking tea with us stood at the door with a large machete.  He went behind the sheep and slit its throat.  The animal’s blood spilled onto the tile floor, into our room, onto the feet of the men.  I was so shocked, I kept taking pictures (warning:  graphic, don't click on the thumbnails if you don’t like blood).

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There were a few minutes of terrible silence, where my friends and I didn’t know what to do. 

This had been the reason we had seen so many sheep and goats on the train - Eid al-Adha – the family was recreating the biblical story of Abraham’s obedience when asked to sacrifice of his first-born son.  But what next?

The sheep was hung from the doorframe (our only way out for the room) so that all the blood could drain off its neck.  I couldn’t look at it anymore, and my stomach turned knowing that the logical next step was for us to eat the poor animal.  The women started lighting up coal stoves (indoors!  I was sure I would die of carbon monoxide poisoning!) and the men passed down raw cubes of meat to them. 

The meat cooked for less than five minutes, and then it was put on a plate besides some bread.  Our hosts graciously waited for us, the guests of honor, to take the first bites.

I closed my eyes and chewed into the vilest piece of meat to ever cross my lips.  To this day I cannot eat lamb without my stomach turning.

I was wrong about the carbon monoxide poisoning.  I was sure that instead I would be eaten alive by the worms that were surely infesting the undercooked meat I had just swallowed.  But what could I do?  There was a man with a bloody knife blocking our exit.

So I ate it all.

Our guide wanted to give us a gift when we finished lunch.  She gave us Moroccan makeovers and made up our eyes with her precious khol powder.  I wanted to give her a gift to thank her, so I dug into my backpack and found a gold lipstick tube.  I gave it to her, and she hugged me in gratitude. 

Soon, it was time for us to go back.  We said goodbye to our new friends, refused the offer of food for later, and headed out onto streets that suddenly didn’t seem so unfamiliar.

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Children were outside playing soccer.  Upon closer inspection, I noticed that instead of balls they were kicking charred sheep’s skulls.  It was like a scene in hell's playground, but we were getting used to this strange land. 

Later that day we headed out for the Sahara.  We were done with the city and crossed the Atlas mountains, marveling at their unfamiliar vistas, to travel deep into the desert on the back of camels.  We traveled with Bedouins with only a comet to light up the dark desert sky.

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PART I

PART II

Friday, November 09, 2007

I hate to say this...

But I told you so.

In the past few days I've been receiving a lot of traffic from people looking for toys that aren't made in China.  I'm so glad!  I love that people are FINALLY realizing that where you spend your money makes a difference.  Hurrah for us!  The safety record of Chinese-made toys (and the US companies that contract out production to Chinese factories) is completely unacceptable.  End of story.

Like I said before, right now it seems pretty impossible to find toys that aren't made in China, but you can do it.  Here's the list that's getting all the traffic - it took me all of 20 minutes to put together, so don't be discouraged if things start to sell out.

Also check Cool Mom Picks - they have discounts!

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

Tales From The Fridge

UPDATE:  Last night, after spending another hour on the phone with GE I was informed that the part we needed was out of stock and that they couldn't service my fridge until next week.  Which would put me at 20 days without a refrigerator.

That is the point where I LOST IT.  I don't even know what I said on the phone, but it must have been pretty scary because a repairman was at my house by 8 AM today.  With the part that supposedly was out impossible to get until next Wednesday.  "I just happened to have one in my truck.  What a coincidence!" he said.

I don't see another GE appliance in our future is all I'm saying.  I know that you can all sleep better at night knowing that I
can finally buy some ice cream. 

This is my fridge:

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It's pretty, isn't it?  I don't think I've ever mentioned my refrigerator because, well, it's pretty boring.  It holds our food and keeps it cold.  That is, until Saturday, October 27th.  That was the day I woke up to find this:

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The interior of my fridge was 71 degrees.  My house was 69 degrees.  I had a freezer packed with frozen appetizers because we were having a party the next day.  A party for 35 people.  And my mother in law was staying with us.  As was my brother in law and his wife.

In other words, I NEEDED MY STUPID REFRIGERATOR TO WORK.

But it was a Saturday, and the fridge is under warranty, and GE would not come out until Monday.

So me, being resourceful and cool-headed (for once) called good friends of ours and asked (begged!) them for freezer space, as I did not want to serve our friends salmonella-infested quiche.  They understood, of course, and kindly made room for our food. The party was saved!  Hot drinks are on me!

Monday came.  The GE repairman came.  He looked at our refrigerator for a total of 5 minutes and announced that he needed parts, and that they would not arrive until Friday.

We were leaving town on Wednesday and would not be back until Sunday.  No worries!  I made an appointment for Monday (yesterday) and cleaned out the fridge.  We left it looking like this:

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That night the cleaners feasted on Trader Joe's pizza and cheese, and our wallet cried real tears.  All that food!  Gone!  Poof!

Yesterday, I waited all day for the GE guy to come.  He fixed our fridge and left.

Joy!  Living without refrigeration when you have small children is damn near impossible.  I made plans to go grocery shopping for those things you never think to buy - things like mayonnaise and mustard. 

Last night I took a peek at the fridge before leaving for the store.  The temperature?  74 degrees!  AAUURGH!

I've been stuck at home all day waiting for the GE man.  He just left, and informed me that he needs ANOTHER part and we will not have a fridge until Friday, maybe Monday. We have guests arriving Friday.  I don't need to tell you why this sucks.

Sebastian is very upset that we have no food in the fridge.  He keeps saying "We no food!  We need to go growcery!  I drive red cart!  I fix frid-gerator!"  He makes me read him books about grocery shopping.  I think he thinks we're going to starve. 

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